Hey Jebus; I think you're going about this the wrong way. You should adjust the equalizer to what sounds best to you. Don't use test equipment. Picture this: you get the sound close to "flat" using pink-noise generators and spectral analyzers, and then observe that you like how it sounds with the 40 hz slider set a bit higher. You put it back where the "test equipment" said it should be and say "Darn, I realy wanted that little extra bass."
Sounds silly, right? It is. Just adjust the EQ til it sounds however you like it. Its your car and your stereo.
And just for the record, if you really want to go the "test-equipment" route, just for curiousity's sake, what you really need is a pink-noise generator and a spectrum analyzer. The pink noise is fairly easy. Try
this free tone generator, which includes pink-noise. Simply record however many minutes of noise you want, then burn it to a CD to play in your car. (Or cassette, or whatever you're using.)
The spectral analyzer will be a bit harder. The reason you can't really use your SPL meter is, a properly balanced system wouldn't have the same sound-pressure-level at, say, 15khz that you'ld have at 40 hz. You'll also need a
very good microphone, which will have its own sonic charateristics. You can see how this starts to get messy.
Like I said initially, just use your ears. They're better than you think.
Dex